“Forgiving isn’t reconciliation” that’s the language I had been trying to use! Why is it so hard😔🥹 we all know tomorrow isn’t promised but it’s hard. Why would you even hurt me that much in the first place🥲now, I have to forgive you wholeheartedly! It is hard. Someone did something to me few days to my birthday last year,something really offensive. I was so hurt. He apologized! Made it up. Got me birthday present,gave me money. I forgave him! His birthday is in few weeks, why am I having that memory again. Why am I having the feeling of doing him the same thing days to his birthday? He apologized sincerely. He was sorry. He didn’t do it intentionally! But me? I’m having the urge to revenge
One thing I can pick up from here is that it’s not easy to just switch off the pain, especially when someone has deeply offended you. And I think your hurt is trying to protect you, not your healed self.
Like you said, he acknowledged you and told you he didn’t do it intentionally, even made up for it. If you do tit for tat, the only thing revenge will give you is a temporary feeling that will fill up a void still tied to bitterness in your heart.
But you can soften your heart and release the desire for retaliation, so please, don’t retaliate. I know it is hard, but please, let it go, my love.
heartfelt, i always tell people friendships cause heartbreaks to but nobody really ever listens. It will never be the same Mimi in my own perspective, but one thing i know is whatever you decide, its okay because its never linear, we all experience the world differently, so my right answer won't be right to everyone else's.
I hear you, but I don’t think everyone deserves a second chance, honestly. Some people have shown us who they are, and believing them the first time is enough wisdom to set boundaries. But it’s also dependent on what they did and whether they’ve actually changed.
Wo..at this point, let everyone do what they think is best for them when it comes to forgiveness, abeg 😭😭😂
That’s fair actually. Boundaries are wisdom, not wickedness. Growth and accountability matter, and not everyone earns another access. At the end of the day, we all just choose what protects our peace.
“Forgiving isn’t reconciliation” that’s the language I had been trying to use! Why is it so hard😔🥹 we all know tomorrow isn’t promised but it’s hard. Why would you even hurt me that much in the first place🥲now, I have to forgive you wholeheartedly! It is hard. Someone did something to me few days to my birthday last year,something really offensive. I was so hurt. He apologized! Made it up. Got me birthday present,gave me money. I forgave him! His birthday is in few weeks, why am I having that memory again. Why am I having the feeling of doing him the same thing days to his birthday? He apologized sincerely. He was sorry. He didn’t do it intentionally! But me? I’m having the urge to revenge
Hehe🥹 girl, I feel you. I’m as confused🚶♀️
I’m sorry this happened, my love. 🥺
One thing I can pick up from here is that it’s not easy to just switch off the pain, especially when someone has deeply offended you. And I think your hurt is trying to protect you, not your healed self.
Like you said, he acknowledged you and told you he didn’t do it intentionally, even made up for it. If you do tit for tat, the only thing revenge will give you is a temporary feeling that will fill up a void still tied to bitterness in your heart.
But you can soften your heart and release the desire for retaliation, so please, don’t retaliate. I know it is hard, but please, let it go, my love.
PLEASE…💜
heartfelt, i always tell people friendships cause heartbreaks to but nobody really ever listens. It will never be the same Mimi in my own perspective, but one thing i know is whatever you decide, its okay because its never linear, we all experience the world differently, so my right answer won't be right to everyone else's.
Honestly, friendship heartbreak is the worst!! 😪
I still haven’t made a decision yet, but I do hope it will be a good one. Thank you. 😊
Forgiving is t reconciliation. But we all deserve a second chance to rewrite our wrongs.
But sometimes, you have to do what’s best for you.
I hear you, but I don’t think everyone deserves a second chance, honestly. Some people have shown us who they are, and believing them the first time is enough wisdom to set boundaries. But it’s also dependent on what they did and whether they’ve actually changed.
Wo..at this point, let everyone do what they think is best for them when it comes to forgiveness, abeg 😭😭😂
That’s fair actually. Boundaries are wisdom, not wickedness. Growth and accountability matter, and not everyone earns another access. At the end of the day, we all just choose what protects our peace.